WRITTEN BY : Hana Nitura
(This article is intended to help husband and wife deals with their marriage.)
Genesis 2: 18 says
" And Jehovah God went on to say: “It is not good for the man to continue by himself. I am going to make a helper for him, as a complement of him."
Jehovah did not make men and women the same. It is true that in many ways they are alike. But there are obvious differences in their physical appearance and sexual makeup.Consider how the brain of a woman and man designed.
Recent studies highlight a long-held suspicion about the brains of
males and females. They're not the same. So how does the brain of a
female look and function differently from a male's brain, and what
accounts for these differences?
Disparities Start Early in Life
Scientists now know that sex hormones begin to exert their
influence during development of the fetus. A recent study by Israeli
researchers that examined male and female brains found distinct
differences in the
developing fetus at just 26 weeks of
pregnancy. The disparities could be seen when using an
ultrasound
scanner. The corpus callosum -- the bridge of nerve tissue that
connects the right and left sides of the brain -- had a thicker
measurement in female fetuses than in male fetuses.
Observations of adult brains show that this area may remain
stronger in females. "Females seem to have language functioning in both
sides of the brain," says Martha Bridge Denckla, PhD, a research
scientist at Kennedy Krieger Institute.
Consider these recent findings. Researchers, using brain imaging
technology that captures blood flow to "working" parts of the brain,
analyzed how men and women process language. All subjects listened to a
novel. When males listened, only the left hemisphere of their brains was
activated. The brains of female subjects, however, showed activity on
both the left and right hemispheres.
This activity across both hemispheres of the brain may result in
the strong language skills typically displayed by females. "If there's
more area dedicated to a set of skills, it follows that the skills will
be more refined," says David Geary, PhD, professor of psychological
sciences at the University of Missouri.
As a whole, girls outperform boys in the use of language and fine
motor skills until puberty, notes Denckla. Boys also fall prey to
learning disabilities
more frequently than girls. "Clinics see a preponderance of boys with
dyslexia," Denckla tells WebMD. ADHD also strikes more boys than girls.
The symptoms displayed by girls and boys with ADHD differ, too. Girls
with ADHD usually exhibit inattention, while affected boys are prone to
lack of impulse control. But not all differences favor girls.
Boys generally demonstrate superiority over female peers in areas
of the brain involved in math and geometry. These areas of the brain
mature about four years earlier in boys than in girls, according to a
recent study that measured brain development in more than 500 children.
Researchers concluded that when it comes to math, the brain of a
12-year-old girl resembles that of an 8-year-old boy. Conversely, the
same researchers found that areas of the brain involved in language and
fine motor skills (such as handwriting) mature about six years earlier
in girls than in boys.-
credits: http://www.webmd.com
Dr. Louann Brizendine, clinical professor of psychiatry at the
University of California, San Francisco states in ``The Female Brain"
that ``A woman uses about 20,000 words per day while a man uses about
7,000."
According to the book ``Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps"by Allan & Barbara Pease:
Men and women's brains have evolved with different
strengths, talents and abilities. Men, being responsible
for hunting game, needed areas in the brain for longdistance
navigation, to develop tactics for organising
the kill and to hone skills for hitting a target. They
didn't need to be good conversationalists or sensitive
to anyone's emotional needs, so they never developed
strong brain areas for interpersonal skills.
Women, by contrast, needed an aptitude for good
short-range navigation, wider peripheral vision to
monitor their surroundings, the ability to perform
several activities simultaneously, and effective communication
skills. As a consequence of these needs, men
and women's brains developed specific areas to handle
each skill.
So why do woman talks more than a man
....men's brains are specialised.
Compartmentalised. A male brain is configured
to concentrate on one specific, dedicated task at
once and most men will tell you they can only do 'one
thing at a time'. When a man stops his car to read a
street directory, what's the first thing he does with his
radio? He turns it down! Most women can't understand
why this happens. She can read while listening
and talking so why can't he? Why does he insist on
turning down the TV when the telephone rings? 'When
he's reading the newspaper or watching TV, why can't
he hear what I've just told him?' is a lament that has
been made by every woman in the world at some time.
The answer is that a man's brain is configured for one
thing at a time because of fewer connecting fibres
between the left and right hemispheres, and a more
compartmentalised brain. Take a brain scan of his head
when he's reading, and you'll find he is virtually deaf.
A woman's brain is configured for multi-tasking performance.
She can do several unrelated things at the
same time, and her brain is never disengaged, it's
always active. She can talk on a telephone, at the same
time as cooking a new recipe and watching television.
Or she can drive a car, put on make-up and listen to the
radio while talking on a hands-free telephone. But if a
man is cooking a recipe and you talk to him, he is likely
to become angry because he can't follow the written
instructions and listen at the same time. If a man is
shaving and you talk to him he'll cut himself. Most
women will have had the experience of being accused
by a man of making him miss a turn-off on the highway
because she was chatting to him at the time. One
woman told us that if she is angry with her husband,
she talks to him while he is hammering a nail!
Because women use both sides of their brains, many
find it more difficult to tell their left hand from their
right. Around 50% of women cannot instantly
recognise which is which, without looking for a ring or
a freckle first. Men, on the other hand, operating in
either the left or right brain, find it much easier to
identify left from right. As a result, women all over the
world everywhere are criticised by men for telling them
to turn right - when they really meant left.
So why do woman likes to talk more than a man?
Women generally like to talk about their feelings, people, and
relationships. They appreciate warm, intimate communication, for it
reassures them that they are loved. On the other hand, many men are less
inclined to discuss their feelings. Again,Male brains are highly compartmentalized and have the ability to separate and store information. At the end of a day full of problems, a man's mono-tracking brain can file them all away. The female brain does not store information in this way - the problems just keep going around and around in her head.Men can mentally index their problems and put them on hold. Women churn.The only way a woman gets rid of her problems from her mind is by talking about them to acknowledge them. Therefore, when a woman talks at the end of the day, her objective is to discharge the problems, not to find conclusions or solutions.
An insightful husband takes note of his wife’s feelings and tries to
adapt his approach accordingly. At the same time, he reassures her that
her thoughts and feelings are important to him. (
1 Pet. 3:7)
In turn, she tries to understand his viewpoint. When a husband and wife
understand, appreciate, and fulfill their Scriptural roles, their union
is a thing of beauty. Moreover, they are able to work together in
making and carrying out wise and balanced decisions.
credits: http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/2013364#h=0-1&selpar=0
After God created the man, God said:
“It is not good for the man to continue by himself. I am going to make a helper for him, as a complement of him.”—Genesis 2:18
A complement is something that matches or goes well with some other thing, making it complete. God made woman as a satisfying match for man to assist him in carrying out the God-given instructions to populate and care for the earth. So after creating the woman from a part of the man, God performed the first marriage there in the garden of Eden by ‘bringing her to the man.’ (Genesis 2:22; 1 Corinthians 11:8, 9) Marriage can be a happy arrangement because the man and the woman were each made with a need that the other has the ability to fulfill. Their different qualities balance one another. When a husband and a wife understand and appreciate each other and cooperate in accord with their assigned roles, they each contribute their part in building a happy home.
References:
- The Watchtower May 15,2013 Study edition pp. 14-18
"Strengthen Your Marriage Through Good Communication"
- "You can live Forever on Paradise Earth" published by the Watchtower and Bible Tract Society of Pensylvania
- Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps"by Allan & Barbara Pease
